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Oct. 18th, 2007

01:28 pm - Confrontation Experiences?

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Date:October 19th, 2007 01:02 pm (UTC)
My abuser was my paternal unit, and I confronted him when my daughter was small. I guess my way of confrontation was more of a threat. I let him know on no uncertain terms that if he laid one finger on my daughter I'd have him arrested, and I would seriously have to restrain myself from killing or permanently maiming him. I did this verbally when she and I moved back to my hometown. I don't know that the confrontation let me feel any sort of relief. It wasn't exactly what I expected. But, I made my position very clear, I set up boundaries, and that is enough for me at this time of my life.

Good luck with your letter & know you have a lot of cyber sisters pulling for you who know the true meaning of sisterhood.
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Date:October 19th, 2007 03:38 pm (UTC)

Setting up boundaries ...

I like that ...

It's one of my biggest problems with my sister. She has this affect on me that, when I hear the sound of her voice, I regress to being her little plaything again. It's my main reason for wanting to cut off all contact with her. I don't trust myself not to leave myself open to getting (emotionally) abused by her again (and again).

I admire you, threatening him. Does anyone else in your family know that you confronted him, or has it remained strictly between the two of you?
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