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Oct. 18th, 2007

01:28 pm - Confrontation Experiences?

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Date:October 18th, 2007 07:17 pm (UTC)
First, can I say, I've never come across anyone else who was a female abused by their sister. I feel a lot like you do about the relationship of a sibling. We sort of had that, but it was so tarnished by what she did. Would it be too forward to offer e-hugs?

I sent my sister a letter a few years ago and I got nothing out of it. I didn't believe her apology (even if she really did mean it) and I'm still trying to, I suppose, forgive her. I want to be the bigger person, but how do you forgive someone who's made most of your life miserable? It's just so hard.

I told my mother. She was very upset about it when I told her, but that's the last we ever really spoke about it. She pretty much avoids the topic which doesn't help me. I also told a few of my online friends a few of them were very supportive about it which did help a little. I still have a long way to go in the healing process, though. Sadly, I don't have any "big supporters" and that's all I really want. Just one person to understand and not be afraid of it.

Send your letter. Send it while you still have idea to. I know it's scary, but you really need to do it to for yourself. I don't think you can truly move on if you don't send it. Good luck!
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Date:October 19th, 2007 03:31 pm (UTC)

Wow ... !!

You are ALSO the first person I've ever "met" who was abused by her sister! I gladly accept your ehug, and return it to you in kind ! ... frankly I'm more comfortable with ehugs ... :-)

I have so many questions for you, I don't know where to start!!

Approximately how old are you, and what part of the world are you in? Did you have any other siblings or was it just you & her? What about your dad? How close does she live to you and how often do you have to see her? How long have you been actively healing?

I've learned alot from talking with other survivors, but their emotional issues are usually different (I think because their abusers were male and usually significantly older) than mine ...

I will gladly be your supporter, if you'll be mine! If you would be interested in less public contact, I have a MySpace account under the name of Hermeneutician (you might want to cut & paste that into the search engine) ... My account is set to private, so you won't be able to see much until you add me as a friend (and I do the same, of course) ... but if you send me a message under your Apple Scruff name, I'll add you right away ...

I'm very excited, and very nervous, to make your acquaintance ... and I'm willing to answer any questions you might have of me, too -- either here in thesmilingmasks forum or on MySpace ... I, too, am tired of being afraid of talking about it ...

PS ... I still haven't sent the letter, but based on the feedback I've received, and my own reflections (writing the pros & cons, and such) it's looking more and more likely that I will
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Date:October 19th, 2007 05:10 pm (UTC)

Re: Wow ... !!

I'm sending you a MySpace message right now with answers to your questions!
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